ROT #2 - Bless Them

Rule of Thumb:

If feeling inferior or in the habit of comparing oneself to others, just say "Bless ______ for being _____".

• do it for anyone you see for anything you might see in them that you wished you had
• can be a car, a job, a physical attribute, a girlfriend, anything
• then start doing it for everything else around that you wish u had...in blessing u are setting yourself up for getting.
  

Why does it work?

• i read it in a book
• the change in focus is huge...
• complimenting others even if they can't hear it is a form of giving that makes u feel good
• when focused to find good things of them, you start to focus on things that are good about everything around you, including yourself
• it changes your focus from your flaws to their successes...instead of looking down on yourself, u are complimenting them.
• It focuses you on what u are jealous of...turns a subjective overall jealousy to a pinpointed objective thing
• allows you to see that its a certain thing (that might be possible to achieve in the future) and not an overall thing that i can never attain

ROT #1 - Down? Do Something!

Rule of Thumb:

When feeling down, just do something!

• first try to do something productive (work related, exercise, learning)
• if can't do that, then find anything active that involves interaction with people or things. (don't just stare out the window, mindlessly walk, or watch tv...needs to be active)

Why does this work?

• I am happiest and most confident when i am busy and doing something
• today i was feeling down and when tenant forced me to take out the garbage, the act of doing the garbage made me feel great afterwards despite really not wanting to do it at all
• when feeling down on saturday, i just walked around Lucky's and drove the car but felt like shit still...if i just did some work or did something i felt was productive, then i would probably have felt better as it allows me to focus on something else.