Lao Tzu on a Good Traveler

A good traveler has no fixed plans, and is not intent on arriving. 
Lao Tzu

Lao Tzu to Confucius

Lao Tzu to Confucius: "The problem with u, sir, is that your intelligence enables you to evaluate people critically. And when you evaluate people critically, you bring danger upon yourself."


exact point: http://youtu.be/68Npq2L0GtQ?t=6m41s

Confucius Quotes "The Superior Man"

Confucius demanded absolute honesty, total self-control and unyielding virtue from his followers. 


“A superior man thinks about what is right. A small man thinks about what is profitable.  A superior man demands much of himself.  A small man demands much of others. A superior man accepts his lot in common.  A small man is full of complaints.”

exact point: http://youtu.be/XWQ2vwZxiD4?t=3m50s

Confidence Quote

“Confidence comes not from always being right but not fearing to be wrong”

Heston Blumenthal

"I taught myself. I did 12 years of experiments on every dish in classical cuisine before i ever opened the restaurant. That's how I learned to cook meat."


Youtube @ 10:55

Dale Carnegie: Win People to Your Way of Thinking

Win People to Your Way of Thinking

Dale Carnegie: Win People to Your Way of Thinking

In a previous article, “Being Friendly: A Dale Carnegie Business Solution”, the importance of being friendly was discussed from Dale Carnegie’s book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.  Being friendly is part of doing good business, and winning people to your way of thinking is a great way to overcome the many barriers that can come along with doing business, too.  It is not always easy to get things done when everyone has a different idea of how to approach business operations, like marketing projects, collecting on invoices, earning new clients, etc.  Further, when a dispute is in place, it can be challenging to get other people to do the things you ask of them.  Dale Carnegie offers good advice on how to break those barriers down.

How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking:

1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

2. Show respect for the other person’s opinion.  Never say, “You’re wrong.”

3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.

4. Begin in a friendly way.

5. Get the other person saying, “Yes, yes.”

6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.

7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.

8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.

9. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.

10. Appeal to the nobler motives.

11. Dramatize your ideas.

12. Throw down a challenge.

(Source: Carnegie, Dale. How to Win Friends and Influence People. Dale Carnegie & Associates, Inc. 1981.)

To Highlight a Few:

Show respect for the other person’s opinion.  Never say, “You’re wrong.”

When you and your coworker do not see eye to eye on something, it is easy to point fingers and say “You’re wrong.”  Sometimes you may not say those exact words, but might as well say it by making other comments like “That is a silly idea”, “Why would anyone do that,” or even by making facial expressions that allude to the same context.  Instead, it is better to respect each other’s opinions just as you would want respect for your own ideas.  You respecting the other person’s opinion makes it easier for them to be open minded in truly hearing your ideas.  Telling them that they are wrong will only put them on the defense, potentially creating an impossible barrier to overcome in getting your opinions heard.

Get the other person saying, “Yes, yes.”

A good way to begin is by asking questions to which you expect the answer to be, “Yes.”  The answer, “Yes”, not only sounds more pleasant, but puts you and your associates on an agreeable playing field.  By emphasizing the things that you agree on, it stimulates positive responses, more positive with each question.  By the end of the conversation, they will be more agreeable than they may have been in the beginning.

Appeal to the Nobler Motives.

Everyone likes to view themselves with noble intentions and values.  Appealing to these values and intentions will inspire them to do what you are asking of them.  You might mention how they always stick to their word, stand by their product, make the right decision, etc.  This is a positive reinforcement of their willingness to participate, take action, or make a decision for you before it happens.  It, of course, must be genuine or the other person will detect your phony manipulation tactic.  But honestly appealing to the other person’s nobler motives will benefit your request.

Reading Dale Carnegie’s book is a great way to grow professionally because it contains several principals on how to improve business relationships, which something that every business professional should be eager to learn.  Each rule listed above has its benefits.  If you have not already, learn them, try them, and reap the benefits both personally and professionally.

In a previous article, “Being Friendly: A Dale Carnegie Business Solution”, the importance of being friendly was discussed from Dale Carnegie’s book, How to Win Friends and Influence People.  Being friendly is part of doing good business, and winning people to your way of thinking is a great way to overcome the many barriers that can come along with doing business, too.  It is not always easy to get things done when everyone has a different idea of how to approach business operations, like marketing projects, collecting on invoices, earning new clients, etc.  Further, when a dispute is in place, it can be challenging to get other people to do the things you ask of them.  Dale Carnegie offers good advice on how to break those barriers down.

How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking:

1. The only way to get the best of an argument is to avoid it.

2. Show respect for the other person’s opinion.  Never say, “You’re wrong.”

3. If you are wrong, admit it quickly and emphatically.

4. Begin in a friendly way.

5. Get the other person saying, “Yes, yes.”

6. Let the other person do a great deal of the talking.

7. Let the other person feel that the idea is his or hers.

8. Try honestly to see things from the other person’s point of view.

9. Be sympathetic with the other person’s ideas and desires.

10. Appeal to the nobler motives.

11. Dramatize your ideas.

12. Throw down a challenge.

(Source: Carnegie, Dale. How to Win Friends and Influence People. Dale Carnegie & Associates, Inc. 1981.)

To Highlight a Few:

Show respect for the other person’s opinion.  Never say, “You’re wrong.”

When you and your coworker do not see eye to eye on something, it is easy to point fingers and say “You’re wrong.”  Sometimes you may not say those exact words, but might as well say it by making other comments like “That is a silly idea”, “Why would anyone do that,” or even by making facial expressions that allude to the same context.  Instead, it is better to respect each other’s opinions just as you would want respect for your own ideas.  You respecting the other person’s opinion makes it easier for them to be open minded in truly hearing your ideas.  Telling them that they are wrong will only put them on the defense, potentially creating an impossible barrier to overcome in getting your opinions heard.

Get the other person saying, “Yes, yes.”

A good way to begin is by asking questions to which you expect the answer to be, “Yes.”  The answer, “Yes”, not only sounds more pleasant, but puts you and your associates on an agreeable playing field.  By emphasizing the things that you agree on, it stimulates positive responses, more positive with each question.  By the end of the conversation, they will be more agreeable than they may have been in the beginning.

Appeal to the Nobler Motives.

Everyone likes to view themselves with noble intentions and values.  Appealing to these values and intentions will inspire them to do what you are asking of them.  You might mention how they always stick to their word, stand by their product, make the right decision, etc.  This is a positive reinforcement of their willingness to participate, take action, or make a decision for you before it happens.  It, of course, must be genuine or the other person will detect your phony manipulation tactic.  But honestly appealing to the other person’s nobler motives will benefit your request.

Reading Dale Carnegie’s book is a great way to grow professionally because it contains several principals on how to improve business relationships, which something that every business professional should be eager to learn.  Each rule listed above has its benefits.  If you have not already, learn them, try them, and reap the benefits both personally and professionally

http://cornerworld.com/win-people-to-your-thinking/

101 Interesting Facts about Korea

1. red lights and road signs are only suggestions, not requirements (buses run red rights all the time if no people or cars crossing)
2. majority of shops and restaurants are franchises
3. when 1 thing works, it is replicated many times....rare to see unique, new ideas...(in my area, there are 10 fried chicken places and 15 cell phone stores and 10 kimbap places...yet they keep making more of them...)
4. korean drink early and get drunk way earlier than americans....wasted and stumbling by 10pm
5. after midnight, many are already done drinking...so eating and cafe is common at this late hour
6. korean never hold the door for others
7. koreans push and shove all the time on buses and trains...
8. rarely will you be let to go first in any line
9. many times u will encounter that the clerk or cashier of the store is actually the owner as well
10. english here is quite good when it comes to storeowners
11. korean kids are cute and somehow get uglier as they grow older
12. everybody listens to k-pop, from the bus drivers to cab drivers to young kids...u will hear a girls generation ring tone as commonly on a 70 year old ahjumma as a 6 year old.
13. everybody has a smart phone...
14. most korean food tastes similar
15. koreans are lazy and not detail oriented, especially with cooking
16. koreans love to eat snacks...any person, big or small or beautiful or ugly can't help but wait in line for some street food or fried snack
17. everything is spicy...most are not very spicy but everything has a lil kick to it
18. kimchi or pickled daikon is served with everything....
19. everybody loves ddokbokki, fried chicken, instant ramen
20. there is a love hate relationship with everything japanese
21. most store are unprofitable yet they don't risk being different to try to stand out from their competition
22. Paris Baguette is everywhere
23. Koreans love bread and coffee probably more than any other country in the world
24. soju is super cheap and drunk by everyone (its even in the teacher's office refrigerator)
25. Koreans litter and find nothing wrong with it..from the teacher's room to the streets of seoul, litter is everywhere and not super clean)